I know we all have people in our lives that we feel we can trust. Although most of us have a lot of associates, there are very few people you would call your friend.A friend is one you can call on. One you can tell anything, and not have to worry about your business getting revealed. Friends know they must be discreet, judicious in their conduct and speech.
We have all heard the saying “everybody ain’t your friend.” So what does this mean? It means you cannot tell everybody what’s going on in your life. Sometimes you just have to shut your mouth and pray about it. Friends don’t always hold up to their part of the bargain. Just like you thought you could confide in them about something, they think they can confide in someone else about your business.
I’m not saying you should go to your grave with all of your deep dark secrets. I’m just saying we have to respect ourselves enough to know what to say to others, and what to keep to ourselves.
Skeletons in your closet may be dead to you, but all it takes is one person spreading your business to bring them to life. We all work hard to build our reputations. Please know that no one is going to look out for you the way you would look out for yourself.
So if you must confide in someone, do your research. Know what type of person they are, listen to how they talk about other friends, and most importantly, know the person you consider a friend.
Although this might seem like an elementary lesson, it is something that is necessary. Reputations are ruined everyday over people innocently confiding in someone they call a friend.
My grandmother always told me ” What goes on in this house, stays in this house.”
Mema, for the first time in my life I truly understand what you were trying to say. I am shutting my door, sealing the windows, and installing a doorbell. And when a true friend knocks, I will open the door, and let them in.