Many male students around campus are looking for that perfect woman. To have a woman that is head-strong, knows what she wants out of life and is going in the direction to attain those goals is ideal. On top of that, if she can cook, that would only be the cherry on the cake. Many female students around campus can attest to these claims of a good woman. Many female students are taking on the role of being a student and a girlfriend. To be a student is having responsibility to yourself and your future aspirations and making good grades while in college. Although that is ideal and most students come to college hoping to carry out those plans, does it really happen?
A female PV student who wishes to keep her name disclosed says that, “School is important, but I am in a serious relationship also. I had to learn how to balance school, work, and my relationship to make sure everything goes right. Hopefully I will marry him one day.” Having a boyfriend is okay, but what exactly is a boyfriend? When a guy is still in “boyfriend status” isn’t he simply supposed to be his girlfriend’s significant other. Another female student says, “I have a boyfriend, but I don’t put him before anything else right now. College is more important. If he wants to stick with me until we graduate, then we will see where it goes after that.”
College can get expensive at times, and when couples do everything together that can defray the costs of things such as food. One PV couple explains that, “We do everything together. We like to be in each other’s company so we split all the costs of food, rent, and etc.” But, the girlfriend of this couple does confess that at times she feels like she is married and it gets stressful, but she knows that what she does helps the relationship and her boyfriend.
In relationships, where is the line drawn between being a girlfriend and acting as a wife? No one knows, but someone once said that, “a relationship is defined by the people that are in it, and no outside figure.” Although school should be the priority, there are other things in life that have to be balanced along with making good grades. As long as all parties are truly happy and goals are being met, then everything is good.