Have you recently fought or argued with your significant other in the past few months? Chances are the answer is yes. Of course we all know that minor arguments in relationships are normal, and we may experience some stress from our boyfriends or girlfriends at some point in time, but what is the reason that ultimately causes our relationships to end? Could it possibly be differences like religion or morality? Are we simply too busy to give the relationship our full attention, or could it be something as simple as the heat of summer? Wow, didn’t see that one coming did you? Ahhh.the joys of summer. The season where people are decked out in sophisticated and oh-so revealing bathing suits by the pool, attending backyard barbeques at friends’ houses, and going to see the top box office movies of the year. Well, once you look at it that way you can be happy doing that entire stuff single yet the question is asked, “How important are our relationships to us?” Can they stand the test of time, or do they fall under the slightest amount of pressure? Can you trust your partner to be around members of the opposite sex? Or better yet, can you even trust yourself to do the same? It seems as if relationships aren’t what they used to be anymore. Back in the day you rarely saw people breaking up or marriages ending in divorce.
Ironically, in modern times it’s been proven that over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, (that’s one out of two) and the numbers are increasing at an alarming rate. As scary as it may be to ask, “Are relationships in college doomed from the very start?”At first everything appears to be running smoothly then, bam! Problems start to arise. Internal forces that we all deal with from time to time may trigger issues in relationships, and in some ways we think that these everyday things are easier to overlook because everyone goes through them like bad communication.
However overlooking small things can place a huge amount of stress on a person.
So in comes the summer season when you want to live inhibitions and experience life with all the wills taken off and what better time to do it than summer when there is so much to do and your calendar is virtually empty. While that might not be the best way to look at things, couples that begin their relationships all starry-eyed and dreamy often end them red-eyed and dismayed. People find themselves often times shot down in flames for reasons that they do not understand. So if you are experiencing problems in your relationship, agree on a time that both of you can sit down and talk about your issues. Try your best to think problems through to avoid misunderstandings because we often talk before we think. If you and your partner have a pre-determined game plan in place, you’re already a step ahead when a disagreement arises. A lot of relationships fail because they are built too quickly and in a hurry for the mere sake of saying, ” I’ve got somebody.” Take your time, converse, and communicate would be your best approach.
Think about it, if you want fast food, you can and will get it cheap and in a paper bag. If you want a feast or formal meal, you must prepare it lovingly and slowly, not to mention that it requires more time.
All these things are important to practice before the relationship starts, not just when it starts to get heated.