Dating is something you do not think about. If you ask me out, we go out. You do not look at the consequences behind the reasons we date. We put vain reasons to why we date (i.e., he is fine, she has good hair).
I was told long ago, “Be careful who you date…they might be your mate.” Think before you decide this is the person you want to be in your company in public. When you decide this is the person for you, place much thought behind that. Do you actually know anything about this person? We date to find out about the other person, but find yourselves in sticky situations after just meeting someone. What is the message that you are giving and you are searching for? Is it looks, money, security, a car, or all of the aforementioned? Remember if we are looking for those characteristics in others, what type of catch are we? You want it all in a mate, but are you willing to give at all?
This will not work. You will have to be able to give and not expect anything in return. When it is all said and done love will conquer all. Love is a beautiful thing. but love will not pay a bill. We make common mistakes and fail to realize that we need to find out what we have in common with the person who is holding our hand or who sits across the table. You may have a meal today, but can they provide a future tomorrow? Think about Tomorrow, not just today. Find out if you are on the same page and do not be afraid of updating that checklist on a regular basis. Relationships are not always 50/50 so we have to know what we can take and what is not acceptable. It is safe to say you will not always be on the receiving end of the love. What are you capable of giving? Please remember honesty is always the rule of thumb. Maintaining an open and honest relationship will foster greater respect for you and your mate. Do not allow yourself to be a doormat. This applies to men as well as women.
You educate yourself, you take care of yourself, you love yourself. Love yourself enough not to settle for anything less than what you are truly worth.