If there’s one thing that I cannot stand, it is a liar.
Not just because the individual is foolish and unable to tell the truth, but because they think I’m an idiot and I don’t know any better. Really? You think I don’t know any better? How insulting.
As a black woman on a college campus, I am surprised to see the number of men living the “down low” lifestyles. A “down low brother,” for those of you who don’t know, is a man who has sex with other men, but lies and does not consider themselves a homosexual nor bisexual. The relationship they have is also very private and not to be discussed.
Did the words selfish, inconsiderate and liar all pop up in your head? I couldn’t have said it better. I consider myself open and accepting of others, I really do. I also encourage individuality and self-love, however, they make my skin crawl.
We’re all entitled to live our lives however we’d like. It becomes a problem when you lie to the people you’re having sex with and you’re deceiving everyone around you. I don’t care that you’re gay, you don’t have to lie to me! You can be gay, bi-sexual, heterosexual, or what have you, but do not make the decision for me. When stepping to the plate sexually or at ALL, you should be prepared to have all the skeletons out of the closet. If you’re having sex with men AND women, your partners have every right to know.
I chuckle at how many men consider themselves to be adults, and bark, “I’m grown” every chance offered, but when it comes to conversations about protected sex, homosexuality and down low individuals, they don’t have anything to say. All of a sudden, those witty twitter/Facebook statuses seem to have flown out the window.
I’m going to try to be clear to everyone living the down low/decepticon lifestyle as possible. Not only are you disrespectful, selfish, and inconsiderate, you are also dealing with lots of self-hatred and in denial. It’s your life, live it-but stop living this fairytale lifestyle and please stop lying.
It would be insensitive for me to say that coming out of the closet is a magical carpet ride. I also understand people’s family and personal lives are different, so not everyone’s family and friends are as receptive as another may be. What does that even mean? Does that mean that you get a pass?
Of course you don’t get a pass! Life is hard, yes, I get it. I understand that life throws us curveballs we feel unequipped to endure, but it’s time for you to step up and accept who you are and what you are attracted to.
Lying about your sexual preference only makes you an untrustworthy person and that is an unattractive quality clear across the board.