“Ay…your booty looking right in those jeans, come here right quick…”
You call to her rather than chivalrously approaching her to show your interest, you acknowledge her body instead of her mind, but if she chooses to ignore you then it’s, “Damn, you ain’t even baddest chick I have seen.”
So often I listen to a young man call out in disgust because he cannot find a “worthy” young woman so he will then move to say, “You can’t trust these h-words, man!”
You have called her a b-word and h-word yet you wonder why you cannot find a “worthy” woman? In 2004, Motivational Educational Entertainment Productions reported, “Black females are dissed by almost everyone. Young African American females hold little status within their communities, reflected in the name-calling and devaluing of young girls.”
Your “worthy” woman does not exist because you do not want to empower her to be so. You shun the existence of your “worthy” woman and allow the matriculation of the b-word and the h-word if with no other action than the opening of your mouth.
“But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person,” Matthew 15:18. You generalize women to be b-words and h-words. You name your mother, your sister, your wife, and your daughter as well but that is not what you meant, right? Just those women that act like a b-word or choose to be a h-word.
Yet you fail to recognize the power of your words and how you use b-word and h-word as frequently as you wipe you behind. You generalize b-word and h-word to refer to any woman you encounter, which would include your mother, your sister, your wife, and your daughter.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits,” Proverbs 18:21. The woman you want, the woman of worth exists through your word, your tongue. You create and destroy her with every letter and every syllable. Your utterances create the women that you see. Learn to tailor your mouth to what you want. Your words create society.
Remember she created you so without her, you fail to exist.
She is woman. First your mother and now your lover, you reduce her to status of a scavenging female dog, running aimlessly to find her next meal, but you question why that one “thirsty” chick is always running behind you looking for her next man.
You have helped create this dynamic. You helped kill the “worthy” woman you so desperately want. Now, I have already told you promiscuity is a choice, an idea that goes beyond opening her legs because life is an array of choices and decisions, but if you as a man define what it is to be a woman rather than a b-word or h-word, you may find more accordance with the woman you want.
“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing,” Proverbs 12:18. With the use of your tongue you created the b-word and with the use of your tongue you can create a woman of worth. Just simply watch how you use your tongue…