Other than the word “castration”, no other word makes the blood of men curl more than the word “love.”It seems that to some guys, the word is an attachment to a person, which is fine if they are talking about their mother. However when it comes to another female, guys seem hesitant to announce their true feelings. Perhaps a fear of ridicule from their friends plays a part, but one thing is sure; guys are rarely the first to say “I Love You” in a relationship.
A couple on campus that says they are in love and content with each other agreed to interview on the condition of anonymity, so from here on, the couple is known as John and Jane Doe.
John and Jane have been together for over two years and know the ins and outs of each other. It was interesting to discover how they fell in love.
JOHN’S VERSION
“We had a morning class together, but even though it was early, she looked great. There was no ash anywhere on her body, which was something that immediately grabbed my attention. I saw some pictures of her as a cheerleader and she was looking fine and I noticed that I was developing a serious interest in her. One thing I like is black girls that act white, which is something that (Jane), does. They act proper and are generally more jipper, which is nice. I knew I might start to be in love when I found myself sharing money with her. I am a selfish person, but I spare no expense with her.
JANE’S VERSION
“I had a class with (John) and he was a real smooth dresser. He also had a very nice personality. He treated me with a lot of respect, which was nice. I started developing an interest when I knew that I could trust him. I had heard that he may have been a player, but when the doubts subsided, I knew that this was a guy that I could get serious with. It was three months into our relationship that I told him I love him for the first time. Of course, he couldn’t respond back the same, but I could read his face that he had feelings for me, but just couldn’t say it.
Each person was asked what they would do if they woke up and discovered that the other one was gone. The following is their response:
JANE: I would cry a lot and miss him very much. I don’t think I would move on for at least a few months to a year.
JOHN: I would move on quickly. I got needs and life is too short to be dwelling on the past.