Why I can't be single

Most of us have a back-up plan for almost anything life throws at us, don't we? Getting an F on midterm exam is no doubt a hard blow, but you figure it can easily be fixed with a little more studying before finals roll around. Likewise losing a cell phone can definitely put a damper on your day and make you really feel lost but, hopefully, with the help of that good ol' insurance plan or a warranty you're pretty much over it in a matter of days...that is when the new phone arrives. But for some of us, being single is something that we just can't fathom or deal with. It is simply, just not an option. It's a given that God did design human beings with the desire to feel they belong, want affection and love, but is it truly healthy to be dependent on that desire? Being single may seem trivial as compared to children starving in Third World countries or people dying from cancer, However, the reality of it is that more people spend time on dating Web sites, hotlines, escort services, and love psychics than they do on giving money to organizations for the greater good.

These people, (usually females), constantly feel like their playing cards must always be "full," so to speak. The thought of being alone scares them, and they feel depressed or even restless if no one is there to desire them or show them some form of affection, no matter how little it is. In your circle of friends, you may know this person as "the flirt" or the girl who goes from guy to guy to friend to brother etc.

So then the question is why are some people like this? You've probably already guessed that it may come from insecurity. They may appear to have sky-high confidence, but the truth is that they need to have the warmth of another individual by their side.

They may be dependent may have always had the comfort of another throughout most of their life, yet has never had to be on their own emotionally. Jerrell Blackshire, a human performance junior, agreed and said,"Because some people are so accustomed to having a boyfriend or girlfriend they don't know what to do when they're single." With that in mind, let's not forget there is the idea that they just want a "collection" of partners. Although it sounds crazy, some people take pride in a loaded "little black book" or "chick-tionary."

Perhaps it could simply be that they are a major flirt and like to flirt with men or women whom they don't necessarily have a romantic interest in. You could almost say they do it just for the hell of it! However, the joke's eventually on them, because this only shows just how much they need the comfort of feeling desired to increase their self-esteem.

Whatever the reason may be, it is certain that this style of dating is not healthy because it does not allow you to stand on your own two feet mentally. The remedy: Take a break! Constantly looking for "the one," is probably the reason why you've not found that special person yet. Why don't you take time out to get to know you.