Are you stuck?

While reading twitter earlier, I saw one of my friends say he was between a rock and a hard place.

I'm like him.

I don't know what exactly that means, but I do know that I feel exactly that way.

I feel like I am at a serious transition in my life yet I'm still stuck in this same place.

Opportunities and blessings have continued to pour into my life this last month but I find myself digressing and trying to remain in this same spot. Why?

Fear.

Some of us nearing the close of our undergraduate careers are just stuck. So often, my friends and I discuss our life paths and what we plan to do in one month, six months, a year or two, and even five years. Who really knows what they want to do?

I know that we should have all of this figured out and that our lives should be determined by now but is that really how it's supposed to be?

I have several options I would like to explore but I'm so skeptical to decide on any. This is real life we're entering, peers. No more randomly quitting or just dropping something when it doesn't fit into our current schedules. Soon, we've got to buckle down and be responsibile.

Are we really ready for all of that? I know I'm scared.

For some of us, we have friendships that are dwindling and others that are randomly blossoming. What do we do? Are the sporadic relationships built to last through the parties' struggles and insecurities? And is it best to leave the old friendships alone?

These are all things that run through my mind every day and I'm sure a lot of my peers feel the same way.

We really are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

As we all try to plan out our lives, let's remember that the point in life is to progress. We must take risks, we must sometimes act in ways foreign to us so that we are using every part of ourselves.

We must find ourselves.

If you feel that you are living someone else's life through yours stop now! We cannot continue to live our lives the way others see fit. We are the ones who will have to be happy, content, whatever in everything we choose to do so let's choose what we want to do!

I encourage everyone to sit and meditate on what is truly important to you. I'm trying it. Just ask yourself questions like "is this relationship really worth it? Do I really want to do this career? Am I really fit for this position?"

The sooner we start, the better. It's not enough to just graduate. We must work hard to do well after we walk that stage as well.

Whitney Harris