Envy: woman vs. woman

What is it about confidence that makes women want to hate?

Is it that there isn't enough to go around?

You've just stepped out of the beauty salon with a new do, nails manicured, feet pedicured, outfit fly, shoes fresh, smelling spectacular and walking like you know your own worth, when along comes one of those sisters with no self-esteem who wants to steal some of yours.

"She thinks she's cute," they'll mutter to their girlfriends.

A real woman, not an imposter, or a sister who compensates for self-esteem by pursuing material things would say, "Correction, I know I am. And don't you forget it either."

It isn't that her hair is freshly done, or that she's rocking the latest Kimora Lee Simmons creation. A real woman could say the same on a day when she's sporting sweats, a D.A.R.E. T-shirt, house shoes and an Aunt Jemima wrap.

It isn't a question of the presence or absence of materialistic things determining the level of a person's self-esteem, but whether or not we live in a society where hateocracy flourishes.

We live in a society where cutting others down is the only opportunity for advancement because naturally, no one actually has their own confidence anymore. They just borrow it from others.

Let's look at the irony of the situation. No one is allowed to be beautiful; that's certainly a crime these days.

It's common knowledge that all beautiful people are reeking with conceit. No one is allowed to be genuinely friendly without being considered fake.

Intelligence is no longer prized. A beautiful, friendly, intelligent woman is viewed as a threat by her peers.

If a woman does all of the afore-mentioned things (pedicures and visits to the beauty salon), that is because she is simply treating herself, it does not make her superficial and materialistic. Women who've found satisfaction within themselves don't do these things out of necessity. They're already secure physically and emotionally. But every now and then real women need rewards too.

So she takes care of herself?! And your point is? Would you prefer if she walked around with dry heels and cracked feet, and chose never to comb her hair again? Or if she made herself a target for open criticism, how would that benefit her as a person? Wouldn't that just give a hater more ammunition?

So ladies, the next time you see a woman walking like she knows her own worth, do us all a favor and don't unjustly cut her down to your level simply because you haven't arrived at hers yet.